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I often wondered how it is some people have succeeded while others appear to be working just as hard but don’t succeed at the same level, why? More often than not somewhere along the way they pick-up some really good habits; or they were taught some really fantastic skills from an expert who had “been there, done that.” Having worked for years in the business of early childhood education, I know the learning phase from our inception has a tremendous influence of later year’s behavioral demeanor, particularly the 0-5 years. Then, we have the stage; whereby we are still developing those influenced indicator from 5 to 10 years. And then, there is a huge influence variable that comes into play with the 10 to 15 years of age era.

Please bare with me a bit, on this one; as it is quite important to keep in mind how and why things have evolved with certain individuals the way they have, and so, therefore wonder what might of happen with that wonderful young boy or girl. Why did someone do so well and others; struggle got in trouble or just could not seem to grasp the material like the others. Though there are various indicators, what might informs us of the positives and negatives about an individual; one aspect of review that is always sought out by psychotherapist is the almighty question of who has influence you or tell a little something about your background. A Therapist will further pursue his inquiry by asking; give me a little brief background about you? The Therapist will go on with seeking to know more about, your parents, your cousins, your friends, your teacher; and it goes on and on.

Why does the Therapist have such an interest in one’s history; because the Therapist is trying to identify the root of the problem or who was an influence on that particular individual. For example, people whom were physically abuse as children experience nightmares up until their adult life. Or a youth that gets influenced early on like, sixth grade to freshman in high school be strayed by influences that can get them in real trouble and by the time parents identify it, it is a little late because they weren’t paying attention.

Now let’s discuss this same issue from a positive perspective and take a look on those influences that have made a positive contribution to one’s personal demeanor. For example, in most cases, we all have probably been highly influenced by our parents or a parent in some cases. Parents are usually the first step of contact right from our inception and guide us along with the do’s and don’ts and in watching our manners. Our parents in most instances play a central role in our developmental stages and hopefully beyond the development stages. But, how about other influences, teachers, good friends, wife or husband, church pastor of whatever denomination, a former colleague or a boss; that was a great boss and hopefully a good leader as a boss or perhaps the influences of what you read, hopefully you get my point.

It is important to conduct a serious review and reflect on who has influenced your world; as it will more than likely continue to be the motivating factor that will drive you to success. Think seriously about it and take action on those issues you know your mentor would be proud of. Don’t underestimate this task it amongst the most important in your career. A day quite honestly does not go by that I don’t stop and think of my parents and others who have influenced me. I often think in my decision making, I wonder what he or she would have done and often have taken action based that thought or an assessment, on what a great influence of mine would have done.

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Do you want to discover the secret to explosive Personal and Leadership Development? Download my free guide here:Personal and Leadership Development. Dr. Richard C. Baiz is a College and Corporate Personal/Leadership Development Instructor and Coach who gets his clients top notch successful results fast.